Why has such brutality come?
Youngsters used to fall in love earlier also, breakups used to happen and get angry too. But then the news of such brutal killings did not come. But be it the Shraddha murder case, the Nikki murder case or now the Sakshi murder case, in all the three the lovers brutally killed their partner. After all, why are today’s youth becoming such a monster? Medical experts say that there are many reasons which are affecting the mind of the youth. Psychologist Gitanjali Sharma counsels many youths. She says, ‘There are many reasons for such incidents. First of all, if the parents are angry and fight or abuse, then the same feelings will come in the child. At the same time, many boys also have an ego that how can a girl refuse me. Then in this type of relationship, there is no affinity but obsession. In such a situation, when the girl wants to leave, the boys cannot tolerate it, it becomes a matter of respect for them. Loneliness has also increased among the youth, so there is no one to talk to them or listen to them. They are no longer taught that failure, rejection is normal. Children are simply taught competition and comparison. All these reasons are becoming the reason for aggression. Psychiatrist Dr. Paramjeet Singh of PSRI Hospital says, ‘Even today, patriarchalism dominates in the society. In such a situation, when the boy feels that the girl is doing something against him, then he wants to teach a lesson. Good friends have become less due to social media. Now children are taught that you dominate everyone. No parent wants their child to come out beaten up, but we also have to understand that fighting is not the solution to every problem. We will teach the children that if you come after beating us, we will harm him only.
Are they not afraid?
According to the media reports coming so far in Sakshi murder case, the accused Sahil had seen the web series before the murder. Earlier, Aftab, an accused in the Shraddha murder case, had also confessed to watching the web series before the murder. So are they also affecting the minds of the youth? Geetanjali Sharma says, ‘Whatever we see also has a good effect on our mind. The kind of content being created nowadays is influencing the youth. Earlier it was shown in films that the consequences of doing wrong are also bad. But now it is shown that the one who committed the crime, enjoys himself a lot, is enslaved by everyone, is afraid of him etc. Then there was a clear distinction between the first hero and the villain. But now the characters have also become such that there is no difference between the hero and the villain. A villain also roams around as a hero, he also becomes a politician, he also has power. So all these have a clear effect on the minds of the youth. After all, why are these youths not afraid? In response to this, she says, ‘All the people with criminal mindset have personality disorders. There are some disorders in which there is no fear. When something happens against them, their emotions dominate. Keep in mind that they are dominated by emotions but not by feelings. Due to this, he also takes steps like killing his partner. Psychiatrist Dr. Meenakshi Manchanda of Asian Hospital says, ‘Killing someone like this shows his bad mental condition. People have different personality characteristics due to which they can take such a step. Then the kind of society, it affects the youth.
How will this situation improve?
Aggression is on the rise among youth, so how can parents rectify this situation? Medical experts suggest some methods for this:
– Children are small, from then only teach them right.
Spend time with children, understand their mind.
Relationship with children should be so open that they share every good and bad thing with you. Make sure you tell them about it.
Teach them that there is equality between a boy and a girl in the society.
Teach children to deal with rejection and ego problems.
If children get angry more, then tell them the technique to control it.
Tell them that fighting is not the solution to everything. If the situation is getting worse, instead of fighting, seek help from around.
– If you are feeling personality disorder or anger is not being controlled, then consult a doctor.