Sometimes failure, sometimes taunts, bitterness of relationships – We all have some incidents in the past that cause the present and affect the direction of the future. Especially when these bitter memories of yesterday begin to be interrupted in the way of career, it can prove to be not only mental, but also commercially fatal. Do you also feel self-respect, discomfort or lack of confidence in your career? Are your past experiences overshadowing today’s decisions? If yes, this is the time to identify and remove that mental burden. Let us know how we can give a new direction to our career except the bitterness of the past.
How do bitter memories stop career speed?
Man’s brain cherishes every experience, and especially negative experiences remain active for a long time. This is the reason why one failed interviews, boss rebukes, or the memories of deception from colleagues are repeatedly flashed in the mind. From this:
Confidence declines
Decision making ability is weak
New opportunities seem to be afraid
Functionality and creativity affect
For these reasons, a person is unable to use his full capabilities and career comes into stagnation.
1. Learn to forgive yourself
Remembering the mistakes of your past repeatedly is not only a waste of time, but also dangerous for self-respect. It is important that you forgive yourself. Adopt a small technique: Stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself-“Whatever I did, I had the same options at that time. I now know better and have moved forward.” This self-acceptance speeds up your healing process.
2. Break the cycle of negative thinking
Often people think on the basis of one bad experience that ‘I will never be able to succeed’ or ‘I always wrong.’ This is called cognitive distortion. To change this thinking: Every time someone thinks negatively, challenge it with a question – “Is this the whole truth?”
List positive experiences and read it daily
3. Follow Mindy Fullness and Meditation
The most effective method of living currently is mindfulness. When you feel every moment with full alertness, the memories of the past are automatically left behind. Meditate 10-15 minutes every day.
Take deep breath
Let your thoughts come without stopping
Let them pass slowly, as the clouds pass
This practice helps the brain to re -program.
4. Take the support of professional therapy or coaching
Many times there are so many deep wounds in the mind that it is difficult to recover from them alone. In such a situation, professional counseling or career coaching is very helpful. A trained coach helps you understand which experiences of the past are controlling your current thinking.
5. Set new goals and celebrate small win
The memories of the past do not leave until you have a new purpose. To move forward in career, make small goals and celebrate every achievement. This will give the mind a signal that you are now moving “not in the past, not in the past”.
6. Talk to yourself, like you do with your best friend
The things we do in our mind affect our mental state a lot. If you talk to yourself in a critical tone, disappointment will increase instead of improvement. So talk to yourself with kindness.
7. Start distance from social media
Often, seeing the success of others on social media, their failures seem even bigger. So do digital detox for some time. Join yourself, listen to the inner voice – that will show you the right direction.
