Man’s thinking, his thoughts and his attitude determines the direction of life. These are the ideas that make us confident and sometimes unknowingly egoistic. Recent psychological studies and spiritual formulas make it clear that some special types of thoughts draw a human to ego very quickly. This change is so subtle that a person himself does not know that he has crossed the limits of ego with self-respect.
What is ego?
Ego means – such a feeling of existence, knowledge, wealth, form, power or position that makes a person understand and make a different from others. It is an internal confusion that turns into self-appreciation instead of self-assessment. Acury is not a sudden feeling, but it gradually thrives due to some of our special ideas. Let’s know what are the ideas that attract humans to ego first.
1. “Nobody better than me” – a sense of superiority
When a person repeatedly starts thinking that “I am the best”, “nothing can happen without me”, “no one like me”, this idea slowly lays the foundation of ego within him. This sentiment looks like confidence in the beginning, but when it connects a sense of comparison and insignificance of others, it turns into ego.
2. “I have done everything myself” – ownership of success
When a person starts giving full credit for his achievements and rejects the importance of team, time, luck or cooperation, then he falls victim to a ‘self-irrevocated’ mindset. Thinking-that “nothing happens without my hard work”-gradually makes the person who stops giving importance to others’ hard work, suggestions and participation.
3. “Why don’t people listen to me?” – Trend to control
Some people consider themselves ‘right’ in every situation and want everyone to obey them. Disappointment and anger arising out of this thinking is actually a symptom of ego hidden inside. When this idea becomes a part of someone’s thinking, he gradually starts to despise the attitude of others.
4. “I need anyone” – from self -reliance to separation
Being self -sufficient is a virtue, but when the thinking reaches the level that a person does not accept anyone’s suggestions, guidance or support, then he starts getting trapped in the ego’s mausoleum. “I can do everything alone” – this thinking starts to remove others and the person starts living in loneliness and confusion.
5. “How did I insult?” – Lack of intolerance and sensitivity
The person who starts considering every criticism or advice as an insult, has done the ego deep in it. Instead of considering criticism to be an opportunity to introspect, considering it as a personal trauma, in fact, to save his ‘ego’ from being hurt. This thinking removes a person from the ability to listen, understand and improve the words of others.
How to avoid this mental trap?
Self Reflection: Review your thoughts and tasks every time every day. Do I consider myself better than others? Can I listen to everyone?
A sense of gratitude: Whatever we have received, many people, situations and above also contribute. Understanding and feeling this helps to keep the ego away.
Tendency to learn: Have a sense of learning something from everyone. The ego of knowledge is the most dangerous, as it stops the learning process.
Maintain balance: There is a thin line between confidence and ego. It is necessary to identify this line and remain balanced.
Relationship breaks ego, prevents spiritual development
The first and biggest disadvantage of ego is in our relationships. When the feeling of “I” in a person becomes excessive, he stops appreciating the feelings, needs and existence of others. This causes a person to fall alone and his mental balance also starts to waver. If seen from a spiritual point of view, the ego covers the light of the soul. Instead of connecting the soul to the divine, he confuses it into confusion and materiality.
conclusion
The direction of thoughts is the direction of life. If our thoughts are associated with humility, cooperation, learning and gratitude, then the ego will never come near. But as soon as we start considering our existence as the greatest, our downfall begins-whether it is personal or social. So it is important that we monitor our thoughts, check them from time to time and make humility a part of life.
