: Tuesday, 22 April 2025 6:13 pm
Fifth note of musical scaleHow are the girls being allowed to get stuck so easily in cases of sexual abuse and blackmailing? This question is often asked when a case of sexual abuse or blackmailing with a girl in the media comes up. But this question is wrong. The correct question should be that it is not trapped, stuck – by a conspiracy, an exploitation system and the alliance of a silence. In this case, not only the girl is guilty, but she is also guilty of society and system, which instead of making her safe and sensitive, only taught her to “stay”. Whenever the name of Ajmer is taken in cases of sexual abuse and blackmailing, it becomes necessary to mention the gangrape scandal in 1992. The Ajmer gangrape scandal of the time shook the entire country when people with political and religious influences, and especially Khwaja Moinuddin Chishti, were implicating thousands of schools and college students. At first, he was blackmailed by implicating him in the trap of love, then taking pornographic pictures of him. Due to this scandal, many girls committed suicide.
But now, after 30 years, once again the same scene has emerged in Ajmer. This time hundreds of girl students have been blackmailed through social media, Instagram chat, fake profiles and videos. Police have arrested several boys, including minors. Compared to 30 years ago, there has been a change in the level of education and awareness of girls nowadays, but do we still feel that incidents like Ajmer could have been avoided? Are we able to take enough steps to keep girls completely safe?
Even today, do not deep questions about security in schools and colleges? Often when a girl is a victim of sexual abuse, the question arises as to why she allows it to happen? Did he have any fault? But the reality is that when girls are taught from childhood that “stay away from boys” or “you can make a mistake”, they are big in fear that if something happens, who will support them? This fear and silence makes them a victim of criminals.
If they are taught that “this is not your fault, you are entitled to security, and you have the right to ask for help,” perhaps she would have recovered from these situations. Our schools and colleges have now become only educational institutions, where education has only one objective – to get results based on ankles. These institutions have neither sex education, nor classes about gender sensitivity, nor any mental health counseling facilities.
Girls not only need self -defense education, but they also need to understand what signs of love and exploitation in relationships. When the girls get this response to the complaints, “You must have done something, he made the video,” it is like ignoring the seriousness of the problem. Social media and chatting apps have opened new avenues for criminals.
What happened in Ajmer’s new case came to the fore as a modern digital hunter. Social media platforms such as Instagram, Snapchat and WhatsApp are first made false love affairs, then intimate chats and videos are made, and finally the process of blackmailing and exploitation begins. The biggest problem in this is that girls are emotionally unsafe on these platforms. They see them as a safe, secret relationship, and then criminals break their trust.
When girls topper in studies, they are appreciated. But as soon as she befriends a boy, or active on social media, she is described as “stray” and “deteriorated”. After incidents like Ajmer, the society asks the same question – “Why did you trust?” While this question should be upside down – “Where was the security system in your school and college?” In our society, girls are educated only in one direction, that is, “be careful”. But have girls also taught how they can protect their rights?
Do we not need to understand that preparing girls for “their defense” is not only their personal responsibility, but the responsibility of the whole society? At the time of Ajmer gang rape case in 1992, the police and administration suppressed the case due to political pressure. The same is still happening – the names of many accused are not coming out, and minors are getting the support of adolescent justice law. Is this the system that we should trust? When police and administration remain silent, incidents of exploitation and rape are suppressed. The same situation is happening in today’s colleges and schools, where there is no guarantee of security.
In cases like Ajmer and Kota, it was also revealed that girls were trapped in a trap through social media, chatting apps, fake profiles. When online dialogue begins, it looks like a ‘confidential relationship’. This trust is exploited. Believing a girl, falling in love or talking to someone is not a crime. Crime occurs when someone rapes this trust, blackmails, and forces him to live in insult. In such cases, we should not blame the victim, but should ask what was the security system in that college? Why did the school administration not know?
What did the police and administration have learned from earlier incidents? The solution cannot come only in one direction. For this, we have to make education system, society, police and administration, and media aware at all levels. First of all, we must compulsorily include sex education in the school curriculum. Counseling and digital security training should be imparted in colleges. In every district, cyber helpline and quick action unit should be established for women. In addition, the media will have to stop the victim from blaming and there should be a fair investigation into the old cases.
The students of Ajmer were educated, but they were unaware of social piercing and digital threats. We have to accept that education should be taught security, not only degrees. And the upbringing should be not just to make obedient, but to make a struggling and conscious citizen. Our daughters are not trapped, are trapped-and as long as education will be limited to the numbers, these hunter nets will continue to be woven again and again.
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