We all struggle with lack of confidence in our lives at some time and it weakens us from inside. If you do not trust yourself, then expect others to trust you, it would be dishonest. A psychologist named Gramani Greenberg has recently written an article in the magazine ‘Psychology Today’. He believes that three reasons are responsible for lack of confidence and all three can be overcome. Learn about those reasons and things hidden in their depths in the next slides …
1. Recently received failure or rejection – Researchers say that our 40% happiness or sorrow is due to recent events. Failure in jobs or studies, rejection of love or death of a close is some reasons that give us deep pain. Not only this, we also lose confidence for these reasons. People who have less confidence, they do not recover from failure and rejection quickly.
How to recover?
1. Give yourself time to deal with the new situation.
2. Do not isolate yourself. Stay with your loved ones and friends. Keep doing things of your choice.
3. Talk to those you trust about your failures.
4. Do not stop trying. Failure is a part of life.
5. Be ready to adopt a new strategy.
Many of us are afraid to talk to others. We start sweating before family function, party or interview. Actually we are afraid of how others will judge us. As a result, our confidence decreases.
How to get well?
1. Fight the critic inside you. Remind yourself of your good habits and qualities. Like your sense of humor is good, you are good friends, you write well… etc.
2. If you are going to meet people you do not know well, then decide some topics in advance on which you would like to talk to them.
3. Run away from people is not a cure for anxiety. Fight it. Go on a date with your crush which is nervous only after seeing you. Experience is important and it will come only by practice.
4. Try to talk small things with strangers on a party or road. You can praise them or ask for guidelines from them.
5. Inspection others. See how they express their feelings. This will also help you.
3. Completeism- Some people set very high standards for themselves. They feel that their grades should be the highest, they should look the most beautiful and they should like everyone. However, this does not happen in real life. Life does not run according to our wishes and we do not have control over some things, but if you want to get everything perfect, then it is bound to face disappointment on many occasions. This disappointment gradually weakens your confidence.
How to overcome
1. evaluate yourself based on your efforts and not on the basis of results. Efforts are in our hands but the results do not come as per our wish.
2. Imagine that if you were 10% better in studies, would you get all the happiness of life? Or would everyone love you if you were 10% more beautiful? If there is no answer, why are you running after completion?
3. Most perfectists think that either they need everything or nothing. This situation is dangerous. Whatever the results, learn to accept them and love yourself.
