There are some moments in our lives that affect us mentally and emotionally deeply. Whether these moments are associated with the betrayal of a person, losing someone’s loved ones, or with some big failure in life – their memory remains in our mind for a long time. Many times we want to forget them, but they remain like a shadow within us. The question is, why is it so difficult to forget bad memories? And is there any way that we can free ourselves from these wounds of the past?
Why do bad memories leave a deep impression on the mind?
One natural quality of the human brain is that it records negative experiences more deeply. This is because our brain is designed to protect us from danger and pain. Whenever we feel a painful, that experience becomes fast active in a brain part called Amygdala, which processes emotions. For this reason, negative memories are more intense and durable for a long time.
Connecting and self-criticism with emotions
When there is a bad experience, we start living not only the event, but also the feelings associated with it. Like – “I wish I had not done it”, “If I could stop him”, or “I was wrong.” Such self-criticism does not let us get out of that situation. We keep ourselves guilty, and this blame creates a permanent place in the mind.
How to get rid of bad memories?
1. Start with acceptance
Defying or running the past is not a solution. First of all it is important to believe that what happened happened. We cannot change it, but we can definitely change our attitude towards him.
2. Learn to forgive
Many times we are unable to forgive ourselves or others, and this refreshes the pain again and again. Forgiveness is not only for the front, but the medium of bringing peace within itself. When we learn to forgive, we gradually start freeing from the grip of the past.
3. Write the path of relief
If someone remembers you eating from inside, write it in a diary. Journaling is a powerful technique that helps to carry the burden from your brain on paper. Keep yourself absolutely honest while writing.
4. Meditation and mindfulness
Meditation and mindfulness can prove to be a miraculous means in recovering from bad memories. This learn to live in the present moment and gradually the effect of the past decreases. 10–15 minutes of attention daily helps to clean your thoughts.
5. Be busy with positive activities
In spare time, the brain then returns to the same track. So keep yourself busy – whether it is to learn a new hobby, read books, or to do service work. When your focus will be in the creative direction, the effect of negativity will be less.
6. Take therapy and professional help
Sometimes some wounds are so deep that only self -consciousness does not work. In such a situation, it is sensible to take help of a psychiatrist or counselor. They help you overcome your emotional obstacles with scientific techniques.
Memories do not disappear, but can change
It is true that any experience, especially painful experience, never completely eradicate. But our understanding and response to them can change over time. What was once our weakness, the same experience can shape our inner sensitivity and maturity.
Create self-preservation and trust
Ask myself a question-“Am I losing my present after living the past again and again?” If yes, this is the turn where you have to decide for yourself that now you will not open the future door with the key of the past. Inspire yourself, increase self -confidence and consider every day a new beginning.
Bad memories of the past stop us, tired and break, but they also create us. If we learn to accept them as a lesson, then the same memories can make us strong. Remember, the past cannot change, but the present and future are completely in our hands. Now is the time to move forward – with a new thinking, new energy and complete positivity.
