I don’t understand what this woman wants?
I am fed up. It is beyond my capacity to understand this.
It is not possible even for God to make my wife happy.
Even Brahma could not understand a woman.
We women have been hearing such things for many generations. Father kept saying the same thing about mother all his life. Grandfather always felt that everything grandmother said was nonsense and now brother also talks like this to Bhabhi. Sometimes such a characterization of us women is done in front of friends in frustration, and sometimes after a direct argument in a loud voice, the matter is put to rest with one such dialogue.
One question remains, ‘What do women want in a relationship?’
People often feel that women give importance to money, attractive personality and influence in a relationship. But is it really so? There are some surveys which tell a different story. According to the survey, for about 54.1 percent of women, it is important for the partner to have similar environment. A survey conducted on single women shows that among women between 18 and 34 years, 72 percent prefer to remain single, the reason behind which we can all understand. On the other hand, among women who want to get married or are married, about 77 percent of women like to spend time with their partner, talk to them. 51 percent of women want that their partner should not have any contact with their old lover. On the other hand, 47 percent of women like to hide their things from their partner due to a feeling of insecurity.
However, there is no need for these surveys. Spend some time with any woman and sit down and listen to her. There are some common things about which every woman will be seen complaining:
He doesn’t give me time.
We don’t talk much, I want someone to understand me but no one does.
He remains angry all the time.
No matter how wrong his family is, the finger is pointed at me and he too does not support me.
Now our relationship is not the same as before. Earlier he used to surprise me, took full care of my likes and dislikes, but now everything has changed.
These things must have touched your heart strings too, because this problem is not yours alone. Modern women are also facing the same old problems in terms of relationships. In such a situation, many times the situation arises that the woman starts considering herself guilty and then stops complaining. The question is simple, what do women expect from a relationship and the answer to this question is even simpler:
need time from partner
A girl adopts a completely new life by trusting only her partner. In such a situation, if the same person starts making mistakes in understanding her or does not give time to her, then the woman’s hopes start breaking. Psychiatrist Dr. Unnati Kumar says that women want someone to listen to them patiently. Do not form an opinion about them on every matter. They keep this first expectation from their partner and when they get disappointed, it is natural for the distance to increase. In such a situation, the woman’s nature also starts becoming irritable and it does not take long for her to get the tag of quarrelsome. For a good relationship, both the partners should take out some time for each other and at that time, leaving aside the family matters, they should talk to each other lovingly so that the sweetness of the relationship remains intact.
desire for respect
Who doesn’t love respect? Then why should a woman be deprived of it? If the spouse does not respect his wife, then no one in the family respects her. Therefore, it is important that both partners take full care of each other’s respect. Along with this, there should be respect for each other’s position as well. That means, while taking important decisions of the family, one should take each other’s opinion, care for each other’s problems and behave accordingly. Along with this, women also want that their spouses should not let their respect fall outside the home as well and should pay attention to what they say.
I like compliments
There is no doubt that women like to hear compliments. And why not, after making all the efforts for the family, they can expect compliments in return. Complimenting them when they get ready, appreciating their cooking skills when they serve food, encouraging them when they raise children… what else do they need? When working in the corporate world, people get appraisal along with salary, employee of the month and what not. Women do not need so much formality in a relationship, just a compliment from the partner can make the relationship pleasant.
freedom to spread wings
We talk a lot about women empowerment, but believe me that even today many women do not have the right to do as they please in their homes. Neither can they cook food of their choice nor can they worship their idol of their choice. Before going to a party, they have to dress up according to others and even to stand with their parents in their happiness and sorrow, they have to look up to others. After so many restrictions, who can spread their wings openly? In this guise of discipline, a woman starts feeling suffocated. In such a situation, going out of the house and making a career, making a place for herself in society remains a dream for her. In such a situation, if the partner encourages the wife to fulfill her dreams along with his own, then she faces other challenges related to the relationship with a smile.
partner support
As soon as you start going out of the house or start doing work of your choice, the problem of support arises. You are left to fend for yourself. Whether you make a career or not, the house should not be disturbed. Such things come to the fore. If the partner shares these responsibilities and starts boosting the morale of the woman in the right work, then the woman can happily take up the entire responsibility of the house and outside.
Financial freedom
According to a survey, even today about 67 percent of women are not financially strong and their participation in financial decisions is negligible. Some women even today have to beg their husbands for just Rs. 100. Apart from vegetables, their opinion is not taken in the purchase of any household item. In such a situation, the word Grihaswamini seems completely hollow. Economic self-reliance of women is also very important to strengthen the bond of relationship.
