The past of all of us is either very beautiful or very painful. But do you know that these memories of the past can sometimes ruin our present and future completely? The more scientific and psychological it is, the more emotional.
Track of memories: When the brain becomes jail
The greatest strength of our brain is his memory, but when this memory becomes a prison for negative experiences, then a person himself becomes an enemy of his future. Some things come to mind again and again- such as someone’s deception, incomplete love, failure in career or any injury in a family. The problem begins when these memories affect your decisions. You are afraid of getting new opportunities, do not trust people and start back from their own life.
What does science say?
Psychological research suggests that conditions such as post-tractic stress and recitation (continuously thinking) mentally exhaust the person. This tiredness affects your confidence, thinking ability and ability to plan for the future. According to a research in the University of California, people who are trapped in their past have a higher level of cortisol (stress hormone) in their brain, which weakens their decision -making ability.
How do the memories of the past ruin your life?
1. Lack of trust
If someone has cheated you, it becomes difficult to trust someone next time. This causes relationships and increases loneliness.
2. Fear and insecurity
If you have ever failed, you are afraid of taking the next step – what if the same thing happens again! This fear can prevent your progress.
3. Self-criticism and lack of confidence
“I could not do anything then, what will I do now?” – Such thinking ends confidence.
4. Losing new opportunities
Because of the past you reject the current opportunities that could bring major changes in future.
What is the solution?
Acceptance
You cannot change the past, but you can accept it. “Yes, this happened, but now I want to move forward.”
Jernling and expression
Putting your thoughts and memories on paper can provide peace of mind. It is very important to talk and share.
Mindfulness and Meditation
Learn to live in the present. Meditation and mindfulness can help you learn to control your thoughts.
Therapy and professional help
If previous experiences have left deep marks, it is not a shameful to take professional help – this is a sensible step.
The past is a lesson, not punished
To teach the work of the past, not to punish for a lifetime. When we embrace and understand the past, it becomes our strength, not weak.