Sometimes love was considered to be the pure spirit of life – without any selfishness, selfless dedication. But in today’s modern times, love has become a complex definition in which more deals, expectations and conditions have become important than emotions. The depth of relationships is decreasing and their existence looks like a sustainable agreement. The question arises-is today’s love really love or the process of a transaction?
Changing social environment and modern thinking
In today’s run-of-the-mill life, people have started giving so much priority to their career, social status and personal aspirations that the spirit of patience and dedication in relationships is gradually ending. First where love meant to walk together, now it is done – “If you cannot give it then why should I give this?” Mathematics of ‘Investment’ and ‘Returns’ is being made in relationships. The love is now not an emotion, but a project that is tried to measure – time, gifts, social media posts, and most, depending on the economic situation.
Social Media: Pretense or pressure of love?
In today’s time, social media has made relationships even more complicated. Earlier there were love letters which used to come out of the heart, now love is demonstrated by Instagram reels and WhatsApp status. Often people start to consider their relationship weak by seeing the glow of others’ relationships. This trap of comparison causes dissatisfaction in relationships. People are no longer living relationships, but are trying to show them.
Self -styled lifestyle
The spirit of individualism is also affecting relationships. “What is better for me” – this thinking has left behind “what is right for us”. Naturally, when two people are together, there will be conflicts, differences, but nowadays there is no patience left to deal with them. Relationships are broken on small things because both sides do not want to get out of their ‘space’ and ‘Igo’.
Economic balance and selfishness
In love, more economic stability is seen more than emotions. How much does the boy earn? How independent the girl is? Can they become a ‘stable couple’ in the future? These questions have now become more important than emotions. Love is now away from the stage where ‘we’ was important, now ‘I’ has become primary. Relationships are now becoming a partnership of selfishness, not a partnership of emotion.
Lack of dialogue in relationships
The biggest reason for broken relationships is the lack of dialogue. People stop talking, or they only say their words, do not listen. Couples spending hours on social media feel hesitant to sit face to face and talk about the heart. Due to lack of dialogue, misunderstandings are born and gradually they become so big that it becomes difficult to handle the relationship.
Lack of time or lack of priority?
Many people say that there is no time today, so the relationship cannot be fulfilled. But the truth is that for what you give priority, time comes out on its own. When the relationship does not become a priority, the lack of time becomes an excuse. For love, not only emotional connections, time, dedication and understanding are also necessary.
What is real love?
The real love is one that is unconditionally. In which neither expectation of profit nor fear of loss. Where there is no pretense, there is just a true connection. When you adopt someone’s weaknesses, they adopt them, then it is love. In today’s time, there is a need that people see love not like an investment, but as an experience. When the calculation of profit and loss in love will be stopped, only then will stability in the relationship.
In today’s era, love has become a challenge, as it has been connected to more circumstances and facilities than emotions. Truth, dialogue, tolerance and lack of selfless spirit in relationships are making them weak. If we want love again to live with the same purity as it used to be in earlier times, then it is important that we give time to relationships, honestly and let love be “love” again, not a deal. If you want to pursue this subject as a series – like “challenges of modern relationships”, “Psychology of Breaking Marriage”, “Social Medical Media” – I can help. Tell me
