When there are utensils, they will clash. This becomes even more apt when said for the relationship between in-laws and daughters-in-law. But, to ensure that these small conflicts do not become explosive, work needs to be done in this direction from the beginning. You have to understand that whether you are about to get married or have just formed a new relationship, when you are trying to adjust with new people, then there can be problems. There are many aspects like thinking, culture, nature between both the parties, which can come up. But, this conflict can be avoided. What is needed is to find a middle path. In this regard, Dr. Smita says that the circumstances of every daughter-in-law or would-be daughter-in-law can be different, it is possible that the problem is also different, but often the result is almost the same. That is, differences of opinion, disagreement, conflict etc. And all this is enough to create a rift in your relationship. To ensure that the sweet-sour relationship does not turn bitter, decide some things in the beginning itself so that neither you nor your in-laws face any problems in the future.
Talk clearly
One should always state one’s point clearly. But, here we are talking about the daughter-in-law and that too the daughter-in-law who is living or is going to live with the entire family. She should learn to speak openly. Like whether she will continue her job or she will need a helper for household work etc. Dr. Smita says that any problem can be solved through dialogue. So always talk openly about your problem and all the aspects related to it. But yes, keep in mind that at that time everyone should be ready to listen to you comfortably. Do not express your point in anger or amidst anger even by mistake.
Keep the rules the same for everyone
Aha, we are the boy’s side, aha, we are the girl’s side… Such talks, sweet and sour banter are good only as a joke. If this thing comes in the way of a marriage, then a fight is certain. Marriage is between two people and two families. Therefore, you will have to make a limit to give equal rights to two people and both families. You will have to make it clear to your partner that the relationship between both families must be equal. Therefore, we will give them equal preference.
Avoid giving advice
If you are about to enter into a new relationship or it has just begun, then be careful. Dr. Smita says that there is a different kind of excitement in the beginning of a relationship. In such a situation, many times the in-laws try to involve you in the issues of the family. You are asked for advice in household matters. In such a situation, it is better to wait a little before giving your frank advice. You can see this as an opportunity to know and understand the family. Here it is also possible that all these things are being done to test your personality. It would be better if you give a composed response with prudence, in few words.
Involve your partner
Whatever complaint your in-laws have about you or against you, do involve your partner in it. Talk to them openly. According to Dr. Smita, it is important to discuss your problem with your partner because he knows his family better than you. He can help you understand them. Not only this, by their involvement in the discussion, your in-laws will also control their temper. With the support and cooperation of your partner, you will also be able to stay safe from future storms.
Forgiveness will be easy
According to Dr. Smita, forgiveness is an emotion that not only makes your relationship good but also gives you good mental health. It is possible that your in-laws have hurt you, you are angry. But still, keep dignity in mind and forgive them. Forgiveness here does not at all mean that you should keep quiet. You have full right to express your pain, sorrow, anger. But, do it at the right time and in the right way so that neither your relationship nor your self-respect is affected.
