We all have felt love at some time – a emotional attraction, a intimate bond, or a vague affinity for anyone. But it is also true that over time, love changes, complex, and sometimes becomes cumbersome with conditions and expectations. What is love after all? Is love true or is it an illusion? And why are the conditions in love? The spiritual guru Osho has answered these intense questions in a very simple but intensive way through his thoughts. They believe that love is true as long as it is pure; But as soon as the conditions are added to it, it becomes a deal.
Love: A feeling or a state?
Osho says that “love is not a feeling, but a state.”
It is an internal state that arises when we are connected to ourselves, complete within ourselves. Most people find love out – in a relationship, in a person – but according to Osho, the root of love is inside. He says, “When you love, love does not go out, it flows from within. It is not given to anyone else, it is just shared.” This means that when we love from within, only then we can truly love others – without any expectation.
Conditions love becomes a business
Osho gives the greatest warnings about love that the conditions and expectations are associated with love. He says, “Where the conditions are there, there is no love. There is a deal, a transaction.” When someone says, “I will love you only when you do what I say,” then this is not love, but control. Osho believes that true love frees, it does not bind. The true nature of love lies in freedom. If love binds someone, then it is not love, but fear, greed or insecurity.
Is love always true? Osho’s approach to this question is very simple but deep. They say that love is true only when it is spontaneous, not arising for any reason. “If you love because the other is beautiful, good, or behaves according to you – then he is not love, but loves.” Osho’s love is very close to truth, because it is devoid of deceit, without desire. When a person loves to love without any reason – just to love, then that love appears as truth.
Love for yourself: beginning of true love
Osho repeatedly says that if you want to experience true love, then first learn to love yourself. We are usually taught that loving ourselves is selfish. But Osho says that a person who does not love himself cannot love others. “You can give as much love to someone else as you give yourself.” So self-acceptance, self-esteem and self-love-all this is the beginning of love. When you accept yourself, then you can accept others without expecting anything in return.
How to live in relationships?
In today’s time, relationships are becoming complicated. People are looking for love, but the most sorrow in relationships is also happening in the name of love. Osho believes that if you want to keep a relationship healthy, then you have to remove ownership, expectation and control of it. He says, “Love is like a flower – the more you hold it, the more it will wither. Leave it open, it will blossom.” If both people in the relationship are independent, are living their lives plenty and still love each other – then that relationship can be long and beautiful.
Conclusion: Love means – being, divided, but not bind
According to Osho, love is an experience that bursts from within and spreads outwards. It neither asks for anything nor has any condition. Love is just. If we understand the philosophy of Osho’s love and apply it in our life, then perhaps we can make our relationships more vibrant, beautiful and true. So the next time you love – start with yourself, do it without any hope, and see how every corner of your life is filled with love.
