There are some such incidents in our lives that shake us inside – which we do not forget even if we want. These incidents can sometimes be a childhood neglect, sometimes a beloved betrayal or failures found in career. But have you ever thought that these bitter memories of the past are hindering the progress of your career or relationships today?
When the past started affecting the present
The events of the past go home in our subconscious mind and without realizing us, they start affecting our thinking, behavior and decisions. For example, if you have ever been cheated in a close relationship, it becomes difficult to trust in the future. Similarly, if there is a big failure at the beginning of a career, then before taking steps, fear or doubt weakens confidence repeatedly and the person falls prey to “self-sabotage”-where we ourselves become an obstacle in our way of success.
How to identify that the past is becoming interrupted?
Do you repeat the same mistakes again and again?
Does it hesitate to start a new beginning?
Do you think you are not able to join the relationship openly?
Do you consider themselves unsuccessful before the chances of moving forward in career?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then it is possible that bitter memories of the past have become a hindrance today.
Now the question is – what to do?
1. Accept, not press
Often we deny or try to forget our old events. But healing begins only when we admit that we were hurt. Accepting is not a weakness, but a symbol of courage.
2. Sorry – others and yourself too
Many times we blame ourselves more than others – “I wish I don’t do this”, “It was my fault”. But every person reacts according to the situation. Forgive yourself and move forward.
3. Do not hesitate to seek professional help
If the memories of the past are distracting you again and again, seek the help of a counselor or therapist. It is not a shame to open the knots of the mind, but a responsibility towards your mental health.
4. Make a habit of meditation and self-thinking
Spend some time with yourself every day. Meditation and jernling will allow you to recognize fear and feelings inside you, which is the first step towards Healing.
5. Decide new priorities
It is not easy to leave the past behind, but it is even more harmful to poison the present by remembering it again and again. Question yourself – “Are these memories contributing to my goals today?” If not, try to leave them.
