In today’s era, it is becoming very difficult to understand the difference between love and attraction. The world of social media, films and rapidly changing relationships has merged both these feelings so much that often people are confused – the feeling they are feeling for someone, is it really love or just a charm? To find an answer to this question, if it looks towards any esoteric but accurate thinking, then it is Osho’s ideology.
Definition of love and attraction in Osho’s eyes
According to the famous spiritual guru Osho, “Attraction is the need of the body, love is the language of the soul.” He believed that the attraction is transient, while love is for depth-it grows over time, matures and beyond selfishness. According to Osho’s thoughts, the attraction is the feeling of the moment that arises from a form, voice, gesture or appearance. This attraction is so strong at times that the person becomes confused that he is love. But when the attraction is over, the relationship also ends. Whereas true love is an acceptance – as he is a person, to accept his qualities, demerit, his soul, everything.
Love is freedom, attraction is holding
Osho says, “Where there is love, there is freedom.” If you really love someone, you will not try to tie it. You will let him live in your own way, want to see him in his happiness – even if he is different from your happiness. At the same time, a person wants to assert authority over another. He wants to mold it in his own way, take control of him in his hands. This grip gradually makes the relationship a burden and eventually breaks down.
How to make a difference: 5 important signs of Osho’s ideas
Temporary vs.
If your feeling rests on just physical attraction or near time, it can be attraction. But if that person has become important in every aspect of your life, then it is a sign of love.
Selfishness vs. surrender
In attraction, the person expects – he wants the person to make him happy. But there is a feeling of giving in love, without any expectation.
Stress vs. peace
Osho says that true love gives you mental peace. If you feel more confused and restless by living with someone, it can only be attraction.
Connection vs. dependence
In love you are connected to someone, but remain free in your existence and decisions. In attraction you become completely dependent on that person – emotionally and mentally.
Time criteria
Osho believed that time is the biggest tester. The attraction fades over time, while true love feels equally deep even after years.
Effect of society and culture
In today’s modern era where the definitions of relationships are changing day by day, Osho’s ideas provide a strong base. Today, when dating apps, Instagram reels and “flexibility” of relationships have shaken the roots of relationships, Osho’s education teaches that love first produces into the soul, then throws in life.
Love means awareness
According to Osho, love can do what he has understood before. He said – “When you love, that love comes from your depth. When you join only to fill loneliness with someone, then it is attraction, needs, not love.”
Osho’s education prepares us to understand, introspect and feel true love. In today’s time, it is important to identify that the feeling that we feel for someone is permanent and pure love or only a temporary attraction. If you are looking for true love, first join yourself, know yourself and see again – your love will be unconditionally, selfless and without holding. This love will lead you and the front to the entirety. Have you ever been confused about this difference? What did you find Osho’s most inspirational?