Many times we become so confident about our ability, experience or social status that inadvertently ego is born in us. Initially it sounds like confidence, but gradually it starts harming our nature, relationships and our place in society. Ego, ie ‘Igo’, is a psychological poison that scraps the person’s personality from within and makes it ‘furious’ and ‘unpleasant’ in the eyes of others.
Identification of ego – How to understand that you have fallen victim to it?
Egoistic person does not realize that his behavior has changed. He thinks that he is right, he is the best, and there is no value of the advice or feelings of others. If these 5 things are happening to you, then understand that the ego has entered your personality:
The habit of winning in every debate
To show the mistakes of others, ignore yourself
Listen to someone’s praise
Just say your point, do not give time to listen to others
Understanding apologizes as weakness
Relationships deteriorate with ego
The first effect of ego has on your relationships. Whether it is a family relationship, friendship or a colleague at the workplace-if you consider yourself to be at the top all the time, people gradually start distance from you. You start falling alone and this loneliness makes you more intolerant and hard. For example, if a boss does not pay attention to his subordinates, every time he tells himself the best, then gradually dissatisfaction in his team. On the other hand, if a person with a spouse only gives priority to his own feelings, then a rift in marital life is sure.
How does the ego make your image ‘ugly’?
The word ‘ugly’ is not just with appearance, but behavior. When someone’s gesture, colloquial, or reaction reflects or humiliation for others, then that person does not want to look rude and insensitive.
There is always pride on the face.
There is a lack of humility in the conversation.
The person considers himself ‘special’ and ‘low’ to others.
He becomes a character of criticism and disdain in society.
Is it possible to get out of ego?
Yes, but it is necessary for introspection and humility. The person must first accept that it needs a change. When you start listening carefully to others, accept criticism with an open mind and do not hesitate to apologize when needed – then it begins to get out of the ego.
Some remedies that can be helpful in this direction:
Meditate and introspect – sit alone for some time in the day and consider your behavior.
Accept feedback – Take opinion about their behavior with reliable people and take it positively.
Move from ‘I’ to ‘Hum’-adopt the spirit of teamwork and co-construction.
Sometimes learn to bend-do not claim to be right every time.
Be thankful – accept and appreciate the contribution of others.
Understand the difference between ego and self -esteem
It is important that we understand the difference between ego and self -esteem. Self -esteem strengthens us, while the ego immerses us in the craving to make us different and higher than others. A healthy self -esteem has humility, but pretense and intolerance in the ego.
conclusion
Ego is a defect that not only breaks your connection with others, but also makes you away from yourself. This can drop your personality to the level where you remain alone despite all of you.
If you want people to respect you, take your thoughts seriously, and maintain a relationship with you – first of all peel within yourself and see if the ego is not ‘ugly’.