We all have a past – something sweet, something bitter. But there are some people whose past is so full of pain that he has a profound impact on their current mindset. These sad memories are not only memories, but gradually dominate thinking, feelings and behavior. When a person gets entangled in the sad incidents of the past, his mental balance starts deteriorating. In this article, we will understand in detail how it is that the mindset of a person who does not get out of the pain of his past, and how this situation affects his life.
1. Currently, the ability to live is over
A person trapped in the bitter memories of the past repeats the same things that have ever harmed him. Whether it is neglect of childhood, someone’s deception, or any big loss – all these things keep roaming in his mind. As a result, he is unable to enjoy his current moments. Life stops like a stop.
2. Negative thinking and self-dominance dominates
When someone recalls bad incidents with him again and again, his confidence starts to weaken. He starts thinking that he will always be bad. In such a situation, self-doubt, inferiority complex and the tendency to blame itself, dominates. These ideas can gradually turn into mental problems like depression and anxiety.
3. Distance and discomfort comes in relationships
People passing through past experiences often do not trust others. They are afraid that someone may cheat them again. This affects their relationships – be it family relationship or friendship or love affair. Such people start distance from others and are closed in their own shell.
4. Overthinking and feeling gilt again and again
The mind of a person who is entangled in sad memories often thinks more than even even on small things. “I wish it would not have happened”, “If I had done this …” things like continuously walking in their minds. This overthinking prevents them from taking decisions in the present and repeatedly creates a sense of guilt.
5. Mental fatigue and emotional imbalance
Remembering the events of the past repeatedly increases the pressure on the brain. This shows anger, irritability, sadness and emotional instability in the person. He starts reacting to small things, feels himself isolated from others and sometimes suicidal thoughts also come.
6. Social life is affected
Such people often distance away from social events. They feel that people will judge them or will not understand their sufferings. Gradually they fall prey to loneliness, causing their mental state to worsen.
7. Hope for future ends
A person entangled in bitter experiences thinks that his future will be sad like the past. He gives up hope of moving forward in life and is afraid to adopt new opportunities. He sees every change as danger.
8. Physical health is also affected
Often we consider mental pain to be limited to the mind, but it also affects the body. Headache, sleep, fatigue, high blood pressure and even immune system can weaken. The brain and body are deeply connected to each other.
What is the solution?
To get out of bitter memories, first it is necessary to accept (Acceptance) – that what has happened has passed. After this, the person should start the process of forgiving and healing himself. Talking to a counselor or mental health specialist is also an intelligent step when needed.
Meditation and meditation techniques
Develop positive thinking
Include exercise and yoga in your routine
Self-discipline and adopt new interests
