There is a time in every human’s life, when any incident, any relationship, mistake or any painful experience dominates his thinking. Again and again the same bitter memories roam in the mind and the person cannot live the present even after wishing. It seems as if the shadows of the past are covering today’s sun. But can we really be free from those bad memories of the past? The answer is – yes, and can not only be free, but can make life better than before by turning those memories into your strength and learning.
Let the past things pass, but don’t stop learning from them
The saying is – “Can’t change the past, but you can definitely decorate the future by learning from it.” No matter how deep the bad and painful memories are, they have a purpose – to make us strong. If you think why that experience came in your life, then you might get the answer that the same was the turn from where you recognized the truth, understood yourself, or someone’s reality.
Make the pain of the past your inspiration
This is what the life stories of many great personalities say – If the pain in the past is applied in the right direction, then it can become amazing energy. Some saw poverty and created a business of crores, some saw betrayal in relationships and became reliable to others, some saw the struggle and returned the society something. In our within us there is the power that can make us the means of getting up the memories that make us fall. Whenever someone wakes up in the past, ask yourself – “What did I learn from that pain? And how can I use it today?”
Not forgetting, it is important to change
Many people think that forgetting a bad memory is the solution. But the truth is that it is impossible to forget, especially if that wound is deep. So it is better that we change it – change its meaning. For example, if someone cheated on you, do not just consider it as ‘deception’, but assume that you get a chance to know someone’s truth. You are more intelligent today, strong, and capable of making better decisions in the future.
Currently focus your mental energy
What has passed will not come back. But we repeatedly ruin today’s energy by thinking on him. This energy is spent in negativity and it also affects our mental health, relationships and work. Therefore, it is important that we bring our mind to the present with practices like meditation, gratitude and healthy dialogue.
Every morning wake up in the morning and say to yourself – “Today is a new opportunity for me. I will learn from the past and make it better today.”
Write your pain in a diary, and then also write in it what you learned from that experience.
Talk openly to a trusted person, so that the mind can lighten.
Your lights can become inspiration for others
If you feel that you are alone, then there are hundreds of such examples in history and currently in which people have become inspiration for the world today. See their interviews, read books, or join their stories. You will feel that the pain is universal, and it is also possible to get out of it.
Bad memories not only hurt, but also make us a strong person – if we understand them and give them a place within ourselves. Their arrival was not our responsibility, but their impact on our present and future or not – it completely depends on our thinking and response.
