Love, which was once considered the most beautiful spirit of a human being, is becoming a complex and scary experience in today’s modern era. In today’s time, when everything has become fast and installed – it has become challenging for people to maintain a deep feeling like this, shopping, entertainment and even relationships like love. The question arises that why people are afraid of love in today’s era? Is this fear real or the gift of modern lifestyle?
1. Commitment Phobia
Today’s younger generation prioritize freedom. They feel that their freedom will be taken away by being tied in a serious relationship. Between career, personal goal and self -sufficiency, taking any emotional responsibility has found them scary. To fulfill love, time, patience and dedication needs – which people do not have in life running away from today’s ‘speed’.
2. Increasing experience of breakup and deception
Every person is broken in some relationship at some time or the other. Social media, dating apps and changing priorities have made relationships transient. People are repeatedly broken, cheated, and have lost themselves a little more. This is the reason that the next time love comes out, people become defensive instead of opening their hearts.
3. Fermonous world of social media
Social media has also made Prem a show. ‘Couple Gols’ on Instagram, ‘Relationship Trends’ on ticket has made people’s expectations unrealistic. Real love, which takes compromise, tolerance and time – now people are starting to feel dull and boring. Instead, people want the image that ‘look perfect’ but it is difficult to play.
4. Emotional insecurity and self-sufficiency
In today’s time, problems related to mental health have become very common-such as depression, anxiety, self-doubt etc. When a person does not trust himself, he is uncomfortable to join someone else. The most important thing in love is self-acceptance, and until the person understands himself, he cannot connect with anyone else.
5. Family and Social Pressure
Even today there are many types of taboos in Indian society about love – caste, religion, class, age, and even gender. In such a situation, youth want to love love but are afraid of future uncertainties and pressure of society. Many times they keep distance from him despite being in love because they know that this relationship will not live up to the ‘rules’ of the society.
6. Uncertainty for emotional attachment
Another big reason is – fear of ’emotional attachment’. To make someone heartbroken, show him your weakness, bring out your true form – all of this intimidates people in today’s time. They feel that if they put their heart and changed or left the front, they would be difficult to recover. Therefore, they want to avoid that situation.
7. Trade of love
Every feeling in today’s world has been linked to the market. From Valentine’s Day to online dating – every thing has become a product. People feel that if they do not have expensive gifts, good looks or social status, then they cannot become a qualified lover. This thinking has also made love a ‘competition’, due to which the soul of the people has started getting scared.
8. Lack of stability
Today relationships are formed with short -term thinking – “Let’s see or not”. This thinking has made love an experiment, fulfilling a temporary need. When a relationship moves towards stability, the person gets scared, because he does not know whether he is ready or not.