We often think that the reason for our lack of confidence is our own habits-such as repeatedly influence ourselves, compare to others, or putting failures with heart. But have you ever thought that some people who live around us may also be responsible for falling confidence? Yes, there may be some people in your life who do not say anything directly, but their behavior, things and presence gradually end your self-confidence. In today’s time, confidence is the foundation of any success. Whether it is a career, a relationship or identity – if self -power is strong, a person can face every situation. But many times we do not understand that the decline in our confidence is not due to any habit, but due to some “negative people”.
Who are these people? How to recognize?
Always criticized people
These are the people who extract shortcomings in every work of you. If you have done well, then they will take out something wrong in it. Such criticism gives you disappointment instead of learning and gradually weakens confidence.
Those who compare you with others
These people often say, “Look how far he has gone”, “I had done this in your age”. Such comparison affects your self -realization, and you start considering your abilities as inferior.
People who call your achievements small
You did some good job, but these people will make him so normal that you will not do anything special. They do not pay attention to your efforts and this behavior weakens your self -confidence.
All the time negative thinking
Some people always complain, they see the problem in everything. Their negative mindset gradually affects your way of thinking. You also get scared about things and start losing confidence.
To remind your failures again and again
Such people will never let you move forward. They always mention your old mistakes or failures and express that you are not worth doing anything.
Why does this happen?
Often such people themselves are insecure from within. They do not want you to become better or move forward. Many times it happens inadvertently, sometimes intentionally. Such people are psychologically victims of “Toxic Behavior” – they want to feel themselves up by degrading others.
What is its effect?
Negative self -realization: You do not consider yourself capable.
Hesial to decide: You think that you will have mistakes.
Fear in trying new things: You are afraid of taking risks due to lack of confidence.
Missing the opportunity for success: Because you do not trust yourself.
How to avoid this?
Keep distance from such people or keep limited contact
If you are close to someone who is constantly dropping your self -confidence, then it is right to distance from it. If the distance is not possible, keep the communication limited.
List your qualities and achievements
Remind yourself from time to time what you have achieved. This will support you in those moments when someone makes you feel inferior.
Spend time with positive people
Complain people who inspire you, appreciate you and also give creative advice if needed.
Make self-talk positive
Whenever you talk to yourself, do not drop yourself down. Say to yourself – “I’m enabled”, “I’m learning”, “My efforts matters”.
Take professional help if needed
If the decline in confidence is too deep, do not hesitate to seek the help of a psychological or counselor.
The confidence is not just the strength coming from within, it is also deeply affected by our atmosphere and people living with us. Therefore, it is important that we pay attention to the people not only on our habits, but also to the people around us. Who is lifting us up and who is dropping us – to understand this is the first step towards self -reliance. So next time you feel weak or discouraged, think – if someone’s talk or company is not the reason for it? To maintain self -confidence, the right thinking, correct compatible and trust in yourself is the biggest key. If you want, I can make a series on this subject in which there will be parts like “toxic people identify”, “how to set mental boundaries”, and “5 habits of increasing self -confidence every day”. If you tell me, I should start.
