We all have such moments in our lives that shock our soul – some sad experiences, breakdown of relationships, accidents or emotional trauma that break us inside. But have you ever thought that how much can it have to have a profound effect on our mental, physical and social health for years?
Past’s burden and present wastage
When we remember the sad memories of the past again and again, we not only repeat that moment, but also lose our present gradually. Psychologists believe that keeping the persistent pain in mind alive, increases the level of stress hormone ‘cortisol’ in our brain. Its effect reaches only mental state, but also to physical illnesses such as high blood pressure, insomnia, headache and digestive problems.
Mind held in emotional chains
Many people are so tied at the emotional level that they do not understand when they have fallen victim to depression, anxiety or overthinking. Especially if a person has gone through cheating, misunderstanding or failure, then he connects these incidents with his self-respect and identity. Gradually this mental state becomes so deep that the person loses new relationships, new possibilities and the happiness of the present completely.
Effect on social and family life
The sorrow of the past is not limited to the person only, it also affects his relationship, family and social behavior. People who have more comfort of negative experiences are often victims of anger, irritability and communication. This causes a rift in the relationship and sometimes these cracks permanently eliminate the relationship.
How these memories are made a mental disease
In modern times, PTSD (Post Tramatic Stress Disorder) has become a serious mental illness, which is the reason-a horrific event of the past which repeatedly rotates in the mind. Many times, experiences like childhood torture, domestic violence, sexual abuse or war can make a person mentally ill for a long time. If they are not taken care of in time, then a person can take dangerous steps like suicide.
What is the way to get out of it?
It is not easy to forget the past, but not impossible either. The first step is to accept that what has happened has passed, now we can only eliminate its effect. Meditation, counseling, jernling and self-help books can be very helpful for this. Many times only sharing your feelings openly becomes the biggest source of relief.
Religion and spirituality can also get relief
In the cultural tradition of India, many spiritual measures have been described to get rid of the past. In the Bhagavad Gita, Shri Krishna says – “Whatever happened, it is good. Whatever is happening, it is going well. Whatever will happen, it will also be good.” This ideology inspires the person to live in the present and helps in getting rid of the memories of the past.