There are definitely moments in every human’s life that shocks his soul. Some relationships remain incomplete, some dreams are broken and some events give the heart a wound that keeps hitting the heart despite the passage of time. We often call these events and experiences the painful memories of the past – which remain with us like a shadow, but are these memories really our weakness? Can we move towards a happy life by fear or run away from them? In this article we will know how these painful memories can not be weakness but strength and self -confidence and mental peace can be found while moving forward in life.
Why do memories of the past harass?
Memories related to the past affect us because they are associated with our emotional center. Our mind keeps our mind deeply in depth – so that we do not repeat the same mistake in future. But when we see them only as pain, they weaken our mental state.
Any broken relationship
Somebody’s sudden death
Career failure
Social or family insult
All these experiences shake us from inside. But there is also the possibility of learning, warning and introspection.
Consider pain not weakness, experience
It is often said in our society that “strong people do not cry”, but this is a completely misconception. Those who recognize their pain and accept it are really strong.
How to make sad memories strength:
Accept that what happened was part of luck or time
Learn from those experiences what you don’t to repeat
Your ability to understand the pain of others has now increased
Now you have become more mature, emotionally aware and tolerant
Often the most difficult experience of our life makes us the strongest person.
First step towards Healing: Connection with yourself
The process of converting the past into strength begins by understanding itself.
JourN Linging: Write your thoughts and feelings in a diary. This practice will give you mental clarity.
Mindfolation Meditation: Accept your pain through meditation, do not fight it.
Take therapy or counseling: If memories are making a lot of impact, it is a perfect step to talk to a professional.
Remember, connecting with yourself is the first pillar of self -confidence.
Change the attitude, the impact of the past will change
We cannot change the past, but we can definitely change our response to it.
For example:
If someone cheated, then to learn from the pain to trust in the future. If a relationship remains incomplete, then the relationships should be improved by adopting the learns in it. If there is a failure in the career, then he should be considered an opportunity to give a new perspective. When we change our thinking, the same past which once brought tears in the eyes, now gives us a reason to smile.
Carry the path of the future with the fire of the past
See the stories of great men and successful people, their past has also been full of struggles. APJ Abdul Kalam, leaving behind poverty and lack of resources, traveled till the biggest scientists and presidents of the country. Nelson Mandela made 27 years spent in jail and gave a new leadership to South Africa. It is clear from these examples that until the fire of the past will be hot, the real gold will not be entered.
To move forward is the true answer
Memories will return – but now you have changed. Whenever a pain of the past emerged, ask yourself: “Are I the same person who was then?” If the answer is not ‘, then understand that you have turned the past into strength. We can become mentally strong only by understanding the intelligent experiences, not by pressing them, but by understanding them.
Those who accept their past and learn from it, they are able to fight any storm of life, so next time a bitter memory of the past knocks, don’t be afraid. Open the door, call him on tea, and say – “Thank you, you made me better than before.”
