Do you ever feel yourself that you are no human who was ever? Do you think you can’t trust your abilities as much as before? If yes, then it is an indication that you are struggling with lost confidence. But the good news is that confidence can be found again. This is not a permanent damage, but a mental state that can be replaced by the right direction, effort and thinking.
Causes of losing confidence
No person’s confidence suddenly falls. There can be many possible reasons behind this –
Repeated failures
Relationships hurt or cheat
Economic or social volatility
Habit of comparing others
Criticism, insult or disregard
In all these circumstances, the person slowly starts losing trust in himself. He thinks that now he is of no use, and this feeling starts breaking him from inside.
How does a lost confidence affect life?
Lack of confidence is not just a matter of mind; It affects the person’s entire life:
Job or career obstruction: A person is afraid of taking new responsibilities.
Distance in relationships: He considers himself less than others and starts to get away.
Fear of new opportunities: The courage of a new beginning ends.
Mental stress: This condition can also take the form of depression and anxiety.
7 effective measures to get confidence back
It is not difficult to regain confidence, if a person works honestly by himself. By adopting the measures given below, anyone can regain their lost confidence.
1. Set small goals and meet them
Getting success in small tasks increases confidence. For example, getting up in the morning every morning, reading a chapter of a book or walking 30 minutes. These small tasks give very mental energy.
2. List your qualities
We often pay more attention to our shortcomings. Remember your old experiences and successes once. Say to yourself: “I have done this, so why not again?”
3. Identify and stop negative thinking
Whenever I “I can’t”, “I will fail” thoughts like “I will fail”, immediately recognize them and turn around and say to yourself: “I will try and learn.”
4. Follow a healthy lifestyle
Exercise, nutritious diet and adequate sleep not only increase physical, but also mental energy. Research suggests that physical fitness is helpful in increasing confidence.
5. Do not compare yourself to others
Every human journey is different. Seeing someone else’s success, it is wrong to consider yourself weak. Start from where you are.
6. Spend time with positive people
Those who encourage you, give you identity – spending time with them reinforces self -confidence. It is necessary to distance away from negative people.
7. Do not hesitate to take help
If the lack of confidence remains constant, then it is prudent to take help from counseling or therapy. Professional guidance is sometimes very relief.
Talk to yourself: Importance of self-dialogue
Many times we do not talk to ourselves. It is very important to understand and give direction to your thoughts. Ask yourself 5 minutes every day:
What did I do well today?
What can I improve tomorrow?
What am I thankful for?
These simple questions can change your way of thinking.
Example: How Seema again trusted herself
Seema Sharma (name changed) of Gwalior was a school teacher who lost herself completely after a unsuccessful marriage. He felt that he has no future now. But he started with small steps. First she forgives herself, then started studies again, adopted yoga, and today she has become a motivational speaker. Seema says, “I learned to believe in myself again and this is my biggest victory.”
