Love – A word that seems as simple as it is, is as deep and complex. Whenever a person talks about ‘love’, there is a smile on the shine, heartbeat and tongue. But in modern society, many people become uncomfortable after hearing the name of love. Running from relationships, fear of commitment and distance from true connection – all of them have become common nowadays. Why after all? Why are people getting scared of love now? The answer to this question we find deeply in the thoughts of spiritual guru like Osho.
Love and fear: a duality
Osho says, “Where there is love, there is no fear, and where there is fear, there cannot be love.” But the society has tied love to such complex, cumbersome and rules that now love is also absorbed – to lose, to be rejected, and above, to break. In today’s time, relationships have been reduced to Instagram Stories and WhatsApp chats. Opening your heart seems like a risk for someone. People think – will the person in front be able to understand me? Will my love return? Or will I break again?
Love in Osho’s eyes
According to Osho, love is not a transaction. This is not a deal. Love is such an energy that flows automatically, unconditionally, without any expectation. But modern man has turned love into ownership. As soon as we say “you are mine”, we turn love into a captivity. Osho says, “True love gives freedom, not bondage. Love is like a flower, which cannot be forcibly caught. As soon as you hold it, he wither away.”
Why are people afraid of love?
The burden of pre -experiences:
Most people fall in love by breaking up once in life. When that relationship ends, the person gets so hurt by the pain that he is afraid of loving again. Osho calls it a “injury to Ego”. When the expectation breaks in love, it hurts the person’s ego.
Conditions of Society:
The society has divided love into the categories of “right and wrong”. Which relationships are acceptable, which not-it has become a work of society. Osho says that love is a personal experience, it is to kill love according to social norms.
Fear of losing freedom:
Today’s youth give great importance to their personal freedom. They are afraid that once they are tied in a relationship, their freedom will be lost. Osho gives a solution to this: “Love does not mean that two people are lost in each other, but it means that two people grow together respecting each other’s freedom.”
Fear of commitment:
According to Osho, “Love is not a promise, it is a feeling that lives in this moment.” But nowadays people consider commitments to be a burden. He feels that once called ‘I love you’, now you have to fulfill the responsibility. This fear takes people away from love.
Fear of losing oneself:
Love means sharing your important with someone else. But until a person travels in his inner, he does not understand that he has to get himself in love, but has to find himself. Osho says, “When you are in true love, you feel yourself for the first time.”
Way of love: Osho’s advice
Osho gives us some suggestions to walk on the path of love:
Know yourself: Until you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anyone else. Self-acceptance is the first step of true love.
Understand attachment: There is a difference between love and attachment. Love gives freedom, while attachment brings bondage. If your love holds someone, it is not love.
Now live in: Osho says that love does not happen in the future or past, it is only in ‘now’. So live love at the moment, completely, deeply.
Leave the fear: I need courage to jump into love. Identify the fear and cross it. This is true spirituality.
conclusion
Osho’s attitude on love has become even more relevant in today’s era. When the world is faster ending relationships, when everyone feels alone despite being connected, Osho reminds us that true love begins from within. When you start loving yourself, only then you can love someone else with full freedom without fear, without expecting.
