Love and ego-both of these words seem different to hear, but their clash in life is very deep and real. Acharya Rajneesh Osho, who is world famous for his fundamental ideology and depth interpretations, has paid attention to every aspect of life, but his views about love and ego are particularly guides. Osho says, “Where there is ego, there cannot be love and where there is love, the ego burns itself.” This statement of Osho is not only the depth of the words, but a living experience – a true understanding, a true understanding, which is born from the experience of life’s experiences and meditation. They explain that the basis of ego is “I” – I am, what am I, what I have found, how much respect I have received, how is my comparison to others. While the basis of love is “you” – what do you feel, what is your happiness, my happiness is in your happiness. There is a difference of land-sky between these two approaches.
Surrender is in love, claims in ego
Osho explains that the basic nature of love is surrender, while the nature of ego is to claim. When you truly love someone, you do not expect, you do not want to change it, you accept it in its entirety. But when the ego dominates, the person also turns his love into ownership-‘he is mine’, ‘He should listen to me’, ‘If he loves me, I should give priority’. This ego gradually destroys love, because he does not have freedom, but controls. Osho says, “Love is like a flower, he blooms only when he is independent. If he tries to catch him, he will wither.”
Love is a feeling, ego a wall
Osho has always called love a flow – a flow that comes from within, unconditionally, without any bond. At the same time, the ego is like a wall – a hardness, which not only distances you from others, but also makes distance within itself. When a person is arrogant, he only lives in his darup. He is unable to see the feelings of others, cannot understand their suffering, but when a person is in love, his sensitivity increases. He not only understands his beloved feelings, but also feels a deep connection with the entire existence. Osho says that “Love opens you, ego stops you.”
Why does the ego also come among lovers?
It is often seen that there is a dispute between lovers, relationships break up. This is because along with love, the ego also starts moving inside. As soon as someone started thinking that “I give more”, “He did not appreciate me”, “I was ignored”, the ego starts raising his head. Osho says that true love is where there is pleasure in giving, not to get it in return.
True love is to leave ego
According to Osho, lovers who want to make their relationship permanent and depth, first of all they have to learn to recognize and abandon their inner ego. Because as long as “I” will remain the main, “we” will never be able to take birth. He also says that meditation-that is self-awareness-is the path that takes the person out of the ego and flows into the pure water of love.