Sometimes relationships do not remain those in which we find love, rather they become those in which we lose ourselves. Love starts with the desire that “be someone who understands, listen and stays together.” But when he started taking account of all the time together – “Where were you?”, “Who talked to?”, “Why did it take so long?” -Ae relationship temperature slowly starts to stimulate. In our society, ‘always living together is considered a sign of love, while the truth is that every relationship wants a little breath. If two people are always under each other’s supervision, then love loses its naturalness. This is exactly the same as to close a flower in a glass jar for fear of its fragrance – it will definitely be seen, but it will not be sorry.
In today’s time, people consider emotional and mental freedom as important as Saath. Staying 24 hours can be a sign of insecurity, not the strength of a relationship. Sometimes the distance is the thing that refreshes the relationship again. The need is that we should not understand love as ‘possession’, but as ‘faith’. The way to save relationships is not just “living together”, but “living within each other” despite being separated.
It is said that if the sun is holding the head every day, then its light also starts to fall burden. Love is also the same – he needs a little dark, a little distance and a little waiting to stay. “Missing” has its own magic in every relationship. When we find someone near all the time, then its importance gradually starts to fade. But as soon as there is a short distance, memories and desires start to deepen. This distance does not reduce the relationship, but gives it a chance to breathe.
Psychologists also believe that love remains healthy only when both people maintain their personal identity and limits. Every single moment of dissolving in another can seem romantic, but in a long time it causes fatigue and suffocation. It is important in relationships that both of them also have “their own time” and “their world” – so that they can get each other new. ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ – This saying is immortal because it tells the deepest truth of love. When we miss someone a little, we get the same relationship back with all our warmth and new energy. Actually, love becomes beautiful when both desire to live together and understand the understanding of staying away. This balance itself makes relationships permanent – such as the empty spaces between the notes in music make the tune melodious.
Often people get scared as soon as they hear the word “space” – they think it means distance, coldness or weakening. Whereas in reality ‘Space’ is not a wall, but another name for expansion of trust. It means – “I am with you, but you have the freedom to be yourself.” Relationships arise when they have a place for both self-esteem and personal freedom. If love means “living together all the time”, then it gradually turns into control. And control can never take place for trust.
It is not to give space that you are moving away from your partner or family – it is just to assume that the front is also a separate person who has his own thinking, his feelings and his needs. When two people are reliable towards each other, they are not afraid of each other’s absence. Rather, they know that the relationship that is true is not all the time by staying under surveillance, but is stronger than breathing in freedom. According to relationship experts, couples who give each other private time, friends and their hobbies have more emotional engagement and durability between them. Because when a person is connected to himself, then only he is able to join the relationship. That is why the demand for space should not be “distance”, but should be considered as “depth of faith”.
The need for space in relationships is not limited to just lover-girlfriend or husband and wife; It is equally important at every level of family, friendship and society. The boundaries of ‘love’ and ‘personal life’ are often blurred in our Indian homes. Parents assume that it is their right to know everything about the child, and children understand that it is respect for parents to obey everything. But the truth is that excessive proximity also sometimes becomes a distance. When someone is not given freedom to think, make decisions or make mistakes, then that person slowly starts to disintegrate from within.
Many times we surround them so much in the worry of our family or friends that they start feeling ‘their own’, but ‘someone else’s’. This feeling unknowingly weakens relationships. Especially today’s generation, who is accustomed to self-sufficiency and private space, seems to be cumbersome to check all the time. It is important that parents give children open air with confidence, and children also understand that space does not mean distance, but maturity. This thing is not only of the house – also applies to workplace, friendship and society. Every relationship gets respect only when there is an understanding of boundaries. We have to learn to accept that giving someone space, not losing it; Rather, he has to give him a chance to get closer to himself.
When space is not given in a relationship, there gradually takes restlessness and fatigue instead of love. In the beginning everything seems right – stay together every moment, share everything, take every decision together. But over time, this “always” becomes a burden. When a person starts feeling that every activity of his is being monitored, or he has to think a hundred times before saying his words, the roots of the relationship start to rot. The name of this suffocation is – “over -attachment”. This is the situation where love gradually controls, and control turns into fear.
In the language of psychology, it is called “co-deaultancy”-when two people become so dependent on each other that their personal identity is lost. Such relationships do not last long, because they take fear and insecurity instead of trust. One person’s persistent control or expectation makes the other mentally exhausted, and then he either becomes silent or far away. Both situations begin to end the end of the relationship. Many surveys and relationship studies show that in relationships where both people do not give mental space to each other, dispute, jealousy, and dissatisfaction levels are very high. Therefore, the lack of space affects not only emotional, but also mental and physical health. Relationships are beautiful as long as they have a breathing place -love also dies.
The beauty of relationships is not just in living together, but also in living within each other. “Space” is not the name of a distance, but the most mature form of understanding and trust. When two people admit that every relationship is a partnership -Malikana is not right, then the comfort in love returns. In fact, the real art of living together is not that they should be near all the time, but that even while separating, the presence of each other would be felt. This is the maturity that makes relationships permanent and deeper.
Giving space is not a sign of any defeat, but proof that we rely on the relationship. Trust rests where there is freedom, and freedom gets meaning where trust. Therefore, it is important that we consider our relationships not ‘bond’, but ‘co -journey’ – where both of them have their own way and also a common destination. In the last, perhaps the same thing says the most beautifully.
“True love is the one where two people stay connected with each other and stay connected with themselves. Where both of them get a place to breathe-and still feel the scent of each other.”