The foundation of a relationship is based on respect and love. But, sometimes – unknowingly or due to changing circumstances – we get stuck in a relationship where our partner treats us only as an option instead of giving us priority. In such a situation, it becomes difficult to decide the direction of the relationship and it is also difficult to understand whether you are really important to them or just a backup option. If you too are feeling like this in your relationship, then the signs given below can help you understand.
1. You are always the one who takes the initiative to contact or meet.
In a good relationship there should be effort from both sides. But, if the entire responsibility of messaging, calling or making plans to meet is on you, then it is a matter of concern. If you stop contacting them and don’t hear from them for months, then understand that they are just treating you as an option.
2. ‘Making plans at the last minute’
Does your partner always think of meeting you only at the last moment? This may mean that their other plans have been canceled or they have nothing better to do. When someone sees you as an option, they never make plans for you in advance.
3. Disappear when needed
You are always there for them when they need you, but when you need your partner, they often have a long list of excuses. Excuses like “I was busy” or “I forgot” become common for them. If you see such a pattern, then understand that you are just an option for your partner.
4. Afraid of commitment
If even after a lot of time has passed, your partner refuses to commit, they may still be exploring other options. They may also be hesitant to introduce you to their friends or family.
5. Lack of conversation
Your partner does not talk to you as much as a couple should usually do. They show little interest in your future, your desires, or your problems. Conversations often happen only when the other person wants something or is bored. If you see such signs, leave the relationship immediately.
